Here’s a quick look at this episode:
- The negative thought process before starting a task you dread
- The simple practice you can to do to shift your thinking and accomplish any task, large or small
Dare to visualize a world in which your most treasured dreams have become true.Ralph Marston
Hi there! This is episode #3 of the Redefining Bold Podcast. I’m your host Gwen Whitfield from theboldabode.com, where I guide warm-hearted women in their quest for a more organized, cleaner home and a more productive and vibrant life.
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Today, I want to talk about something that has really made a HUGE difference in my life.
I call it, “Chasing the Feeling”
Now I don’t know if i heard that phrase somewhere or if I was the brilliant Einstein mind who made that up, but either way, it’s really rocked my world.
But first, let me go back and share with you my mental twisty-twirl thought process that I used to be totally bogged down in.
Here it goes:
OK. I have got to clean the bathroom today.
Yuck. I hate having to clean the shower, because I have to get down on my knees and scrub like a fiery demon to get that dirt off. Who ever even invented this stupid plastic shower surface that is the absolute WORST to clean anyway.
Don’t they know how miserable it is to clean showers in the first place And they literally make it harder for us?
Ugh. But it’s getting gross and I don’t think I can go another day.
Oh, but then I’m going to have to move all the junk off the counter and clean that too. It’s getting gross and there’s hair everywhere. What a pain. Why does my hair have to fall out anyway. between my hair and the cat hair I feel like we live in a fur-mobile.
So, you get the point, right?
No control over the negative thoughts and once they’d started, they’d just start pouring out like a pile of brown sludge all over good carpet.
And that was just a minor episode. With bigger, more stressful things I had to do, I’d have this kind of internal dialogue for days, weeks even.
It was like a bunch of 6ths graders arguing over who was going to have to clean the cat box.
Grow up already.
It’s just a shower.
But the pain was real. And the thought-ribbons would just keep unfurling going for olympic gold.
And then one day, I woke up. I woke up and started thinking about how it would feel, not to clean that shower, but to have it clean.
How would it feel if I looked down and it was sparkling white and gleaming at me?
That would feel pretty darn awesome, right?
To have it already done and over with?
And I sat with that. And I saw it in my mind. That white, very hard to clean plastic, just smiling back at me with all it’s clean-ness.
And I got down and cleaned that sucker without hesitation. Without any mental fight erupting and spewing hot trails of negativity anywhere around.
It was unbelievable. It was mind-blowing. Such power and ease.
And ever since, whenever I feel that alter ego start to jab at my cerebellum, I shift my focus to how the outcome would feel. See it in my mind and sit with it.
Just focusing on what it would do to my heart and mind, once it was done. Complete. Finite.
That’s what I mean by ‘chasing the feeling’. Going after the feeling of success and completion instead of wallowing in the ‘have-to’ and the ‘pain’ of it.
You can do this with anything you dread. Going to the gym, cooking, cleaning, organizing, work… anything.
The release and relief that come from gettin ‘er done is way more satisfying when you can shut down that irritating mental garbage and already know the feeling of success.
Finding that feeling, literally in your body before you ever begin a task sets you on a path where you can not but be a check-it-off-my-list champion.
So, what i want you to do right now, is sit and think about something that is on your To Do that you really, seriously dread, and instead of thinking of all the tedious reasons you hate it, don’t wanna do it, wish you could pay for someone else to make it happen, and imagine it being done.
Not seeing yourself doing it. Just seeing it done.
Find that feeling. Where can you feel it? I often feel it in my heart area. But you might feel it in your arms or head.
Wherever you may feel it, it feels nice and cozy. Like a warm blanket of furry softness, doesn’t it?
Chase the feeling.
Chase the feeling and see how it changes your life. And I want to know. After you’ve tried this tactic, email me at [email protected] and let me know how or if it’s working for you.
And so I leave you with these words from Ralph Marston:
Dare to visualize a world in which your most treasured dreams have become true.
Thanks so much for listening and I’ll see you next time on The Redefining Bold Podcast!
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